Unfortunately , it seems this custom is so strong that many chinese simply do not know how to let down their guard , even among their family members and closest friends 很不幸，大多数中国人对这种方式已处之泰然，即使是最亲的家人、最亲密的朋友，他们也总是这么小心设防。
Next followed the thought that much of the future peace of mind enjoyable by the dear ones , depended on his quiet fortitude . so , by degrees he calmed into the better state , when he could raise his thoughts much higher , and draw comfort down 然后他想起要让他的亲人将来能处之泰然，自己现在也必须能处之泰然，这样，他才逐渐稳定下来，心里也好过一些，这时他的思想达到了更高的境界，从上天汲取到了安慰。
He bore with philosophy the conviction that elizabeth must now become acquainted with whatever of his ingratitude and falsehood had before been unknown to her ; and in spite of every thing , was not wholly without hope that darcy might yet be prevailed on to make his fortune 韦翰想起自己对达西种种忘恩负义虚伪欺诈的事情，伊丽莎白虽然从前不知道，现在可完全明白了，不过他依旧处之泰然，他多少还指望达西给他一些钱。
A sneer , however , whether covert or open , had now no longer that power over me it once possessed : as i sat between my cousins , i was surprised to find how easy i felt under the total neglect of the one and the semi - sarcastic attentions of the other - eliza did not mortify , nor georgiana ruffle me 然而无论是明嘲还是暗讽，对我已失去了一度有过的影响力。我坐在两位表姐妹中间，惊讶地发现自己对一位的完全怠慢，另一位半带嘲弄的殷勤处之泰然伊丽莎伤不了我的感情，乔治亚娜也没有使我生气。
Kiasu , kiasee , kiabo , afraid of trouble , afraid of the government these are all controversial topics . perhaps they are not the common characteristics of singaporeans . if we sensationalise them and keep talking about them , will it have a positive effect that spurs the people to face the issue squarely , understand their own shortcomings and change for the better or will it eventually be considered as characteristics that are impossible to change or are unnecessary for us to do anything about them , thus accepting them as part of our lives 无论如何,怕与否是存在着许多复杂的因素,怕输,怕死,怕老婆,怕事,怕政府都肯定具有争议性,也许它也不是新加坡人的共同特性,只是我们把它扩大,拿来谈论,越炒越热,不知道这是会带来好处,让人民正视问题,了解自己,看清楚优缺点,修身养性,还是会被当作是无法或无需改变的特性,以平常心处之泰然。
